I miss my long hair. And summer.
I'm not really sure what I'm trying to say in this post so hopefully it comes out okay. :)
2014 has been a little bit crazyy and hard so far.
We have had a few adoptions that didn't quite work out.
Adoption #1, the birthmom was receiving a lot of family pressure to keep the baby. That would be so hard.
Adoption #2 was SO perfect buttt the super sweet birthmom lived in a state where we could not use our agency, and the adoption was going to require a lot of upfront fees that we weren't financially comfortable with.
Adoption #3 Birthfather didn't agree with the adoption.
I can not even imagine deciding the future of your unborn child, and we are so honored that these strong women even considered us as match for their baby. A family recently left a comment on this post that reflects my thoughts exactly:
"It's hard for those who haven't adopted to understand the bonding you experience when you are chosen as an adoptive family. Suddenly you are fiercely bonded with a baby that hasn't been born and you haven't even held. "
I can not even imagine deciding the future of your unborn child, and we are so honored that these strong women even considered us as match for their baby. A family recently left a comment on this post that reflects my thoughts exactly:
"It's hard for those who haven't adopted to understand the bonding you experience when you are chosen as an adoptive family. Suddenly you are fiercely bonded with a baby that hasn't been born and you haven't even held. "
Something I want to add to that is the bonding you feel with a birthmom who is putting all of her trust in YOU. How amazingly cool is that?
Adoption is such a roller coaster of the highest highs and lowest lows. It's so difficult not to get your hopes up about possibly getting a baby! I have done a lot better with not letting my emotions get the best of me so I don't wind up getting hurt. Again and again.
This all sounds really depressing, but we are definitely ok and optimistic because we KNOW the right baby is out there for us. We know that God's hand is in everything. And we know this will ALL be worth it once this sweet baby is in our arms. I have learned that I have to let go of the control and literally let Jesus take the wheel.
Our adoption homestudy expires in September (5,651 pieces of paper work and adoption trainings you have to complete to be approved to adopt), so we are really hoping to adopt before then!
1 comment:
It's hard for those who haven't adopted to understand the bonding you experience when you are chosen as an adoptive family. Suddenly you are fiercely bonded with a baby that hasn't been born and you haven't even held. Conversely, if the adoption "falls through", there is such grief and disappointment and suffering. Still, I know it's worth it and when everything falls into place the love and attachment you'll have with your baby will be beyond others comprehension. The birth family will be comforted by it.
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